We Could Have Been Friends, My Father and I: A Palestinian Memoir

2023 National Book Award Finalist for Nonfiction

A subtle psychological portrait of the author’s relationship with his father during the twentieth-century battle for Palestinian human rights

Aziz Shehadeh was many things: lawyer, activist, and political detainee. He was also the father of bestselling author and activist Raja. In this searingly personal memoir, Raja Shehadeh unpicks the snags and complexities of their relationship.

A vocal and fearless opponent, Aziz resists under the British mandatory period, then under Jordan, and, finally, under Israel. As a young man, Raja fails to recognize his father’s courage, and in turn, his father does not appreciate Raja’s own efforts in campaigning for Palestinian human rights. When Aziz is murdered in 1985, it changes Raja irrevocably.

This is not only the story of the battle against the various oppressors of the Palestinians but also a moving portrait of a particular father and son relationship.